3 New Year’s Resolutions for Ryerson Students

It’s that exciting time of the year… the official last day of 2015! Tomorrow, not only do we welcome a new day, but a new year – the first day of 2016! 2015 has been such a big year for so many of us, and with the near year staring us straight square in the face, we look forward to making 2016 even better than 2015.

During this time of the year is when the infamous “New Year’s Resolutions” begin to be concocted. These New Year’s Resolutions are meant to outline our goals for the upcoming year, with the intent to stick by them no matter what. These resolutions are generally goals towards self-improvement. Some popular ones are include:

“Get healthier.”
“Save more money.”
“Stop procrastinating.”
“Cut down on coffee.”
“Sleep earlier.”

While the above-mentioned resolutions are wonderful resolutions, they are typically difficult to maintain unless you have discipline made of steel. Many of us are mere humans who make mistakes here and there that veer us off-track from our resolutions, and we find ourselves just neglecting and forgetting them altogether. In my opinion, New Year’s Resolutions should be two things: Specific and Realistic. They should be specific enough to fit your personal goals and aspirations, and it helps to really narrow your focus on what you can do to really achieve these goals. They should be realistic enough so that you’re not asking too much of yourself and you won’t be overly-stressed out or feel overly-pressured if unable to achieve them.

Therefore, with these criteria in mind, I have created for you a list of New Year’s Resolutions that hopefully resonate with you more and you are able to hopefully stick to in 2016:

3 NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS FOR RYERSON STUDENTS

1. DO NOT BE SO TRUSTING OF THE TTC OR GO TRANSIT
Think you can wake up at 7:00am because it only takes you 15 minutes to get ready, takes you 10 minutes to get to the station, and the train/subway/bus comes at exactly 7:30am every morning? Think again. If you’re a first year student who is still learning the ropes when it comes to commuting, and you currently have this mentality, you’re in for a rude awakening. The TTC or GO TRANSIT, although extremely helpful and necessary, have a knack for being quite unreliable when it comes to being on time. Don’t assume that you will have a smooth commute, free of delays or late arrivals each day. Do yourself a favour and wake up earlier in order to arrive at your station earlier so you don’t miss that 8am exam worth 40% of your grade. It may suck but you know what else sucks? Missing an 8am exam worth 40% of your grade because your subway was experiencing delays.

2. TRY TO AVOID THE TEMPTATION OF THE EATON CENTRE ASKING YOU TO BLOW YOUR MONEY THERE RATHER THAN GO TO CLASS
Going to school in Downtown Toronto is all kinds of fantastic – and also forces you to face all kinds of temptation. That being said, Ryerson University’s prime location gives you access to absolutely everything, including one of Canada’s largest and most popular malls, The Eaton Centre. There’s nothing more tempting than it finally being pay day, but you’ve got a class that day, and walking past Eaton Centre with “SALE” signs on the window. This kind of excitement is enough to get your blood pumping. But if you knew what was good for you, you’d repeat this mantra: “You don’t need another Roots sweater. You do need to pass this class. You don’t need another Roots sweater. You do need to pass this class. You don’t need another Roots sweater. You do need to pass this class.

3. GET OFF YOUR PHONE WHEN YOU’RE WALKING DOWN YONGE ST, YONGE & DUNDAS SQ – OR ANY STREET FOR THAT MATTER
It’s 2016 and communication and human interaction is at it’s highest. Unfortunately, the form of communication that 99.9% of the population resorts to nowadays any form that our cellphones allow us – SMS, iMessage, WhatsApp, etc. It’s hard not to have our phones in our hands, heads down, eyes on the screen, and responding to everyone and everything 24/7. When you’re a Ryerson student, this is especially difficult when you’re trying to get to class and having to weave through the hundreds and thousands of people in Downtown Toronto each day. You’re risk for running into things is already increased by going to school in Canada’s major city alone – you’re only increasing your own risk by texting while walking. Do yourself and others around you a favour – wait until you get to the SLC to reply to that text or check that email. Keep your head up when you’re crossing the Yonge & Dundas Sq intersection. Let’s start a new campaign this 2016: Ryerson Students Against Text-Walking. Let’s make it happen, people.

With that being said, I’m sure you can think of tons more. I sincerely hope you’ll take these three into consideration when coming up with your own New Year’s resolutions. Let us know how you get on throughout the year. If you stick to them and achieve your resolutions – fantastic! You’re on the road to success. If you slip up a little bit and veer off track – it’s never too late to get back on track! You, too, are on the road to success.

Most of all, I hope you have a wonderful 2016 filled with health, happiness, success, and love. Stay safe this New Year’s Eve and enjoy yourselves!

Happy New Year and let’s make 2016 a great one!

A Letter to My First-Year Self

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I’ve always enjoyed this kind of writing style; the kind where an older and wiser person tells the younger and dumber version of themselves what they wish they knew in hopes that other younger and dumber folks will use their advice to become older and wiser faster.  They also serve as a good laugh for the current older and wiser.  They are all similar in some ways but I still enjoy them and see their merit.  I’ve never been in a position to write one of these writing pieces until now.  As I begin my fourth year of university, I can write a letter to my first-year self.  There’s tons of “do and don’t” articles for university, first year, residence, etc. out there and I don’t want this to be one of those pieces.  I won’t be standing up on a soapbox telling you what to do if you’re in first year.  I’m not an expert on the university experience; I didn’t live in residence, I’ve never been to Brunswick House and I’ve never pulled an all-nighter, but I  think I’ve grown during my time at Ryerson.

I just started my fourth year of the Bachelor of Social Work program; it’s going to take some time to get used to hearing that I’m a fourth year.  Beyond course work, I think I’ve learned some valuable lessons about life, people, surviving university etc. during my  experience thus far.  I like to think I’ve come a long way from the hot mess first year walking around downtown Toronto in a blazer with spikes on the shoulders, red lipstick, heeled boots and earrings that should strictly be reserved for the nightclubs.  While that girl makes appearances at times, I think I’ve learned some things since that awkward and fashionably questionable time in my life.  So here is a letter to my first year self:

It’s first semester and you have found your people; your friends, your soul mates, your rocks, your supports, whatever you want to call them.  That’s all going to come crashing down when you don’t have classes together next semester.  Your close friends will greatly depend on who you have classes with each semester.  Don’t get me wrong, it is possible to have close friends you see regularly, even when you don’t have classes together, but you’ll see the people you have classes with much more often.  These will be the people you sit with, go for coffee breaks with, grab lunch after class with, complain with and who will know how you are on a day-to-day basis.  These people may change every semester and that’s okay.

So, how do you deal?  Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.  You don’t need a clique, this is not high school.  There seems to be a pattern amongst the cliques in university.  First, no one will know your name.  The people in your program who are not in cliques will simply refer to your group with an identifying phrase.  For example, the short girls that sit together.  Second, you will not make any friends outside of your group because that’s how cliques work which will ultimately lead to my third noticed pattern, when you have a class without your clique, you will likely be sitting alone.  Don’t be too concerned about finding “your group”; you’re much better off meeting plenty of people.

I had an idealized version of what my new life would be like when I moved to Toronto and that included a boyfriend.  I knew most of the guys in my hometown and they were not for me (no offence Niagara boys but we have met and we are not each other’s types).  That fantasy never panned out and I will admit, first year me was quite disappointed.  Listen up first-year me, it doesn’t matter.  There are so many cooler things you can do in university than having a boyfriend.  You also may not have time to have a significant other.  Think of how busy your life is going to be with classes, placement, new friends, volunteering, part time jobs, and all the things you can do in Toronto.  Where would you fit him in?  Save the boyfriend for a better time.

Your apartment, your room in your parents’ house, your residence room, or wherever you reside, is going to be messy.  Even the tidiest of people will succumb to the big choices in university; doing readings or cleaning, writing a paper or cleaning, going out with your friends or cleaning.  Cleaning never wins.  Keep in mind that we are at the epicentre of cockroaches and bed bugs so a certain amount of cleanliness is still a good idea.

A class may not be your cup of tea; don’t be afraid to drop those classes.  There have been several classes where during the second week I’ve had a gut feeling that I would not enjoy this class.  I stayed in those courses because I was worried about having to catch up in a new course.  I wish I had dropped all of those courses because catching up in a new course would have been better than staying in a course I did not like.  The bottom line is you’re paying for this and should enjoy it.

It’s okay to stay in on a Friday or Saturday night.  University is tiring to the point where most of my classmates reserved Friday nights to stay home and rest, especially when placement started in third year.  There is nothing nerdy about doing readings or an assignment on a Friday or Saturday night.  On the other hand, there is nothing wrong with dropping all of your responsibilities for a night and going out or having a Netflix night.

Work hard; go to class, get good grades, get involved, volunteer.
Play hard; explore Toronto, meet new people, make new friends, try new things.

The jacket with spikes on the shoulders from first year.

The jacket with spikes on the shoulders from first year.

Top image from: dating.lovetoknow.com

My Twin at Ryerson

Have you ever had that moment where someone comes up to you and talks like they know you?  They ask how you’ve been, what you are up to and if you’re having a good day.  You are trying to smile, talk and pretend you know who they are.  Meanwhile, you’re desperately trying to figure out who this person is without being rude and asking who they are.  When this happens to me at Ryerson and I am 100 percent sure I don’t know the person I ask them one question; are you looking for Madeline?

Madeline is in the English program at Ryerson and has become my Ryerson twin over the past two years.  We have only met once but we have caused some confusion for the friends we have made since starting school.  We are both on the short side, wear glasses, have short hair and I have heard we have similar styles of clothing.

I became aware that I had a look-a-like a month into my time at Ryerson.  I was volunteering with the Women and Trans Centre, handing out flyers outside the library entrance.  Someone came up to me and started talking like he knew me.  He finally realized he had the wrong person and told me I looked like a girl in his program.  After that there were several other instances of people talking to me on campus and at school events thinking I was Madeline.

I met my twin about a year later in a Mindfulness Meditation class during the week where you can try classes for free at the beginning of each semester.  She came up to me after class and asked if I walk down Gerrard Street to get to school.  She went on to tell me that her friends always think I’m her and realize it’s not when I don’t respond.  I told her how people have confused us and that I have made friends because of those errors.  We surely do not look identical but I see how someone might confuse us, especially if they’ve only met us once.

My memory with names isn’t always the best.  I’m excellent at recognizing faces but names escape me.  Now when someone at Ryerson talks to me and I don’t recognize their face, it’s usually a safe bet that they are looking for Madeline, my Ryerson twin.

Stand or walk – A rant about escalator etiquette

Escalators. Please use them accordingly.

Escalators.

You stand on the right or walk on the left.

Is it really that difficult to get?

I don’t understand why this code of conduct is such an issue for people to follow. You know the people I’m talking about: the ones standing directly in the centre of the moving stairs, sipping an iced coffee and idly standing there like the world has come to a standstill. They don’t get the rules of the escalators and it’s become a city-wide problem.

With the hustle and bustle of life rushing past us at an overwhelming pace, it’s safe to say that almost everyone is looking for a moment of mental clarity, where they can recline on a warm railing, turn off their brains, and think of something completely unrelated to deadlines, social obligations or financial responsibilities. I really appreciate those moments, which is why I understand how the escalator can serve as a temporary platform for self-reflection.

But no matter how far off you are in Never Land with your iced coffee and reclining pose, please be considerate of those around you and follow the rules of the escalators.

These rules are simple, friends; stand on the right or walk on the left.

Throughout my entire life as an escalator user, I’ve been subject to a ridiculous number of spaced-out people who aren’t big on practicing these rules and they fail to consider everyone behind them. This lack of consideration, whether it stems from ignorance, a glitch in their understanding of social etiquette, or a downright attitude problem, makes me believe escalator etiquette is dying in Toronto.

This blog isn’t a soapbox for me to get preachy about how important my time is because everyone places value on time. We’re all in a rush to get to where we need to be and, for the most part, escalators can make that happen much quicker and easier than stairs, so long as the jerk in front of you is following the rules of the escalators.

So please, if you decide to hit up the escalators in the Eaton Centre, Toronto Life Square, or the ones on campus (when they’re running over those two weeks each year), think about the person behind you – the one franticly looking for a way to walk around you and huffing obscenities under her breath – and stand to the right or walk on the left.

It’s just that simple.

The Perfect Summer Read

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Are you headed to the cottage this summer, or perhaps farther abroad?  Looking for the perfect book to take for the trip?  Here are some of my favourites which might become your favourites too.

I am fan of historical fiction, especially historical murder mysteries.  There is nothing like a good mystery set in medieval England or ancient Rome.  There are two authors that I have recently become enamored with, Ruth Downie and Margaret Frazer.  Downie’s books are set in the Roman Empire and involve a medic who unintentionally becomes a detective.  Look for Semper Fidelis or Medicus.  The books are engrossing and really historically accurate.  Margaret Frazer writes murder mysteries set in medieval England.  The crimes are always solved by Dame Frevisse, a 15th century nun with a knack for being in the right place at the right time.  They don’t have to be read in order, but you might want to start with the first in the series, The Novice’s Tale.

If murder mysteries aren’t your cup of tea, how about some brilliantly clever and witty Canadian literature.  I found myself reading every one of Timothy Findley books before I could help myself.  There are two that would be the perfect summer read.  Not Wanted on the Voyage and HeadhunterNot Wanted on the Voyage is the story of Noah’s ark told from the point of view of the cat.  Even if you aren’t interested in religion or no nothing of the flood myth you will love this book.  Headhunter is another exception read.  It is set in Toronto.  A woman sees Mr. Kurtz from Conrad’s Heart of Darkness escape from his book in the Metro Reference Library.  Findley weaves the chase for Kurtz through the alleys of the Annex.

If you are looking for something a little bit more involved then why not try some ethnographic literature.  I just finished reading one called Turning Gold Gray by Timothy Diamond.  Diamond, a sociologist, goes to college to become a nurses assistant and writes about his experiences and observations while working at several nursing homes in Chicago.  I know, I know, it sound dry right.  Wrong.  It is really well written and is more of a story.  If you have any interest in health care, geriatrics, or sociology then this could be the perfect summer read for you.  Why not try Riding the Bus with my Sister by Rachel Simon.  Its revolves around her relationship with her mentally disabled twin sister and is her masters thesis.

Looking for something perhaps a little deeper?  More meaningful?  How about Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach.  Bach is also the author of Jonathan Livingston Seagull if you were wondering why the name sounded familiar.  This book deals with similar themes and philosophy.  You could always try Heinlein’s Stranger in a Strange Land.  A classic novel about religion, spirituality, and well, life.

If none of these recommendations seem like a good fit they try what I do when I am at a loss for what to read.  I pick a library at random and walk the shelves pulling out every book that has an interesting title or cover.  Sounds a little silly, to judge a book by its cover, but sometimes it works.

Let your inner child out this Halloween!

Ever since I can remember, I have loved dressing up for Halloween. Weeks before October 31st, I would plan out my costume. As an adult, I still love dressing up for Halloween. It reminds me of what it was like to be carefree and it gives me a chance to be creative. This Halloween, let your inner child out and make a Halloween costume!

Here are some fun tips to help you get started:

Figure out what you would like to be. Who are you really at heart? Are you a super hero, a fairy, a transformer, a ghost, a clown?

Sketch out your costume ideas on paper. Even if you are not artistic, making some sketches will help you make your costume come to life.

Get some supplies without spending a lot of money. Buy some discounted fabric on Queen Street and some decorative items from the Dollar Store at College Park.

Put it all together. No need to sew! Using a glue gun will help you get the look you want without a lot of work. You can even use safety pins! Remember, your costume only has to last one day.

Don’t forget your hair and make up. Don’t be afraid to get wild by wearing colourful lipstick, eye shadow and blush (you too guys!). Use a good amount of hairspray to create the crowning touch on your costume.

Going out on the town

I think a Halloween costume should be worn all day! Whether you are going to class or to work, show off all your hard work. Halloween costumes remind adults of the joys of being young. Bring some joy to the world simply by daring to show off your costume.

Cristina as Robin Hood

Cristina as a pharoh

Cristina as a butterfly.

Capturing the moment

As you can see from the images on this blog post, I was able to capture the memories of past Halloweens. Every time I look at these pictures, it makes me happy. When life is getting you down, you too can look back at your Halloween fun and remember that the world is often a happy place.

Other Halloween tips

Before the big day, figure out where you will be on October 31st. Will you be in class or at work? Talk to your classmates or colleagues and see if they too are interested in dressing up and having some fun. You can even run a few contests and have prizes. Some ideas include:

  • Best unique costume
  • Best homemade costume
  • Best elaborate costume
  • Best group costumes

The actual prize is usually secondary to the fun of winning so a few chocolates and a certificate you can print from your computer should suffice as a prize.

I guarantee that the effort of designing and making a Halloween costume and sharing the fun with friends will give you lasting happy memories.

Happy Halloween!

How to Fall and Stay Asleep

The average adult needs 7-9 hours of sleep per night but as we all know, that’s certainly not always feasible. The student schedule can be hard to juggle with sleep and everything else in life, especially when there aren’t always enough hours in the day. Sometimes I’ll look up from my notes, only to realize that two hours have passed in what felt like twenty minutes. Sure that’s a good thing for my study session, but it also throws off my schedule – especially when it’s time to start winding down for the day because I’m not the kind of person who can shut the books and go straight to sleep. In fact, sometimes I find it quite difficult to fall asleep, even when I’m incredibly tired so I figured there must be more to it and I did some research. It’s important to strive to maintain some form of normalcy and routine in your sleep patterns (whatever that means to you) in order to perform your best. Turns out that gearing up to catch some zzz’s has to start before your head hits the pillow. Read on for more tips on how to make the most of your slumber.

  • Position: There isn’t a “one size fits all” solution when it comes to your sleeping positions. Two pillows, no pillows, a pea under a stack of mattresses – we all have our preferences so it’s a matter of finding what works for you. If something doesn’t feel quite right, try investing in a new pillow. It sure is easier and more feasible than purchasing a new mattress and it can make a world of difference. Fun fact: Mattresses double in weight within 10 years of use due to the accumulation of dust mite debris, sloughed off dead skin cells and sweat. Goodnight!
  • Screens: Light tells your body that it’s time to wake up, so it’s no wonder that glaring at a bright screen before bed can really impair your ability to fall asleep. Cell phones and laptops all have this effect, not to mention using them right up until you close your eyes will keep your brain running on full speed. Texting and all those little games (I’m talking about you Tetris!) on your phone and computer have stimulating effects on the brain, so turn it all off at least an hour before bed. As far as entertainment goes, try reading a book – no eBooks allowed!
  • Food: It’s no doubt that consuming large amounts of liquids will make it harder to sleep through the night, but solid food as well can have the same effect. Avoid having large meals within a few hours of bedtime because it takes a lot of work for your stomach to break them down which often keeps people up at night. It’s a common misconception that consuming alcohol actually enhances your sleeping abilities, and while it may help you to fall asleep, it has negative effects on the quality of one’s sleep (and the quality of one’s morning after).
  • Stress: Whether the threat is real or perceived, stress heightens our brain and sensory functions. From an evolutionary perspective, the last thing the body wants to do in a stressful situation is relax. Unfortunately, most of us probably don’t even realize how stressed we are but any level of stress is bound to affect your ability to hit the hay. In order to get the best snooze possible, minimize the stress! That includes keeping stressful topics (ahem, exams) out of mind while falling asleep, but also trying to minimize the stress in your life overall. May I suggest some yoga (or kickboxing) lessons? Whatever floats your boat.

 

Information found at:

http://health.howstuffworks.com/mental-health/sleep/basics/how-to-fall-asleep2.htm#

http://www.helpguide.org/life/sleep_tips.htm

Standing Out

“You’re unique – just like everyone else”


Almost all of my fellow first year nursing students that I have encountered thus far have said that they want to pursue a career in pediatrics (myself included). Sure, I expect that opinions will change over course of the next three years, but as it stands now, I foresee a high demand for the line of work that does not have the greatest supply. Since coming to university and hearing that most people have the same end goal as I do, I’ve only become more motivated to stand out from the rest in both anticipation of the real world and in hopes to prepare myself (both personally and professionally) for what I am sure that I will one day encounter as a nurse. At this point in time, I’ve really only touched the tip of the professional iceberg with some retail experience, a whole lotta babysitting and as much volunteering as I can handle. As I see it, it’s never too early to start building up your resume or branching out to make contacts in preparation for the real world, and so over the past few years I’ve been trying to do just that.

 

The other day, one of my fellow students and I were talking about what we envision for ourselves after graduation. I told her that I hoped that my volunteer experience in the health care field would help me to get to where I want to be in my career one day (if not for the experience just being listed on my resume, but for the skills that it will help me to develop) but she thought otherwise. In fact, this person told me that she purposely hasn’t spent any time volunteering or trying to get work in the nursing or health care field because she thought that the nursing degree which we will all graduate with in the end will be enough of a qualification to land a job. At first I thought she was joking, then I realized that I couldn’t disagree more. Yes, we all graduate with the exact same thing and if we’re all going to be going for any jobs at all then going above and beyond is the best (and only) way to stand out. No one’s going to hand you a job – in any field – and getting the degree is only one piece of the puzzle.

 

A nursing degree does not make a nurse, and it’s up to us to go above and beyond to foster the most personal and professional growth we can in ourselves – for any profession. I don’t see the sense in adopting the “least possible amount of work” attitude throughout university to try and scrape by and hope that a piece of paper and a few letters after your name will do the talking for you. Even if a bachelor of anything was enough to find a job in the real world, why would anyone want to limit their learning to that? I’d like to think that we’re all pursuing something that we’re passionate about but I know that’s not the case for all. I hope that this person smartens up soon enough to realize that when other people raise the bar by doing everything that they can to become the best that they can be, striving for the bare minimum just isn’t going to cut it!

The February Effect

I can’t help but notice that no one ever comes to class these days. Maybe it’s the weather… Or maybe it’s just the mentality of lazy students… Or maybe, just maybe, it’s the February effect. We’ve gotten through first semester and most of us made it out alive. Perhaps students are feeling as if they’re on top of things and that because they’ve done well thus far, there’s no need to continue coming to class. From what I can see, the February effect is both infectious and chronic.

 

I know it’s expected for class sizes to go down throughout the year, but I’m talking about the people that just stop going all together for no good reason – you know who you are! I hear those skippers say they’ll find the time to make up for the missed lectures but I know that doesn’t always go so well. If you’re not pushing yourself to rise and shine for that 8AM lecture you’re wasting precious time (and money!) and you’re missing out. I don’t like to see people disregard the value of education and I know that everyone learns differently but I just don’t see any sense in feeling as if you don’t need to go to class.

 

Some profs are sneaky enough not to post any lecture material online, except all that really leads to is people texting me (and the others who went to class) for the notes that they missed. Other profs post some stuff online, but perhaps leave blanks in the notes in hopes that we will fill in the answers when we cover the material in class. Again, this only leads to the same situation as the previous. Then there are the profs who make life easy for those who don’t bother to show up (and on me) and just post all lecture content. Even still, there’s always more to a lecture than there is in a PowerPoint or a sheet of notes. There’s no way that someone who spent 20 minutes flipping through a PowerPoint is going to get the same thing from it as someone who has had it explained to them by an expert for 3 hours. Yes, some lectures get boring but that doesn’t render them useless!

 

I get a kick out of the people who come to class, only to curl up and nap. They must think that they can applaud themselves for just coming to class – not realizing that it makes no difference where one decides to sleep. Same thing goes for those people who plug in their headphones to catch up on the latest episode of their favourite show. This isn’t even a case of mixing business (well, academics) with pleasure – the only learning going on there is plot development.

 

I suppose none of this should really matter to me, we’re grown-ups now and are responsible for our own actions. It’s not my problem if someone doesn’t mind falling behind in school. And as long as the sleeping beauties don’t snore and the movie buffs keep the volume down, I should be able to keep myself in check and that’s all that I can do.

There Is No Try

People love to complain. We can find flaws in absolutely anything, and like they say, the grass is always greener (and thicker and more lush and more neatly groomed) on the other side. Yes, sometimes I feel that way too. Sometimes I wonder why there’s no snow and then when we get the snow, I wonder why there’s so darn much (mother nature really can’t win). Oh, boo hoo, cry me a river.

 

I got myself into this train of thought after making it through a week that left me feeling like a cross between a psychotherapist and a guidance counselor. People love to complain, and they seem to especially love to complain to me. Am I alone here? Sure, I’m not perfect and I love a good pity party just as much as the next person, but this is getting to be too much.

 

“Yes, that’s really too bad that you’re 4 weeks behind in your studies, but it’s funny how you manage to find the time to watch TV all day and party alllllllllllll weekend….” I thought to myself as I listened to someone go on and on about how much stress they were under a few days ago. And then I tuned out (now, if only we could be so conscious of our own complaining tendencies!). Sure, we all need a little motivation from time to time, but when it starts to become to much it’s time to either get it together or to stop talking about it!

 

Much of life is out of our control, but does that really justify taking the time to whine? I think not. Before I get all philosophical here, I must remind you that all that we can do is choose our outlook on life. Yes, attitude is a conscious effort. Imagine your lawn is infested with relentless dandelions – you can decide whether you want to drive yourself mad trying to get rid of the ‘pest’ or you can take a step back and remember that they’re just easy-to-fluorish flowers. Again, like they say, ‘too many people miss the silver lining because they’re looking for gold’.

 

There are also things that are under our direct control and when you think about it, there’s really no sense in wasting the time to go on about something bad (or not good enough) that is the direct product of your conscious efforts. Next time you’re getting ready to complain, stop and wonder if it’s worth it… Will whatever it is that’s bugging you matter in 5 hours? 5 days? 5 years? Usually the answer is no, which means its not worth the breath in your lungs that it takes to complain. So let’s stop talking about things and just do it. Make the changes you complain about in you life. Just do it already.